Proprium

Proprium ( noun) its formal known for a next word for own , meaning a nonessential property common to all the members of a class; attribute according to the online dictionary.  Do we actually give enough credit to own selves or do we sit around hasting  to listen in every critizing comment that has been sent out to torcher our way of thinking what is right and wrong about our body?

I believe everyone is born a unique way and they there own talents , ways and means to give meaning to this life,  I never try to think one way to things other than to express how I feel about a certain situation , which is my God given right to do as in others whether it is negitive or positive .

On that note I support a woman or man expressing themselves to ever they seem fit to show it to , maybe we might learn from it or we might not but we shuldnt banish a person for his beliefs because we want it a certain way  or think the way we do. If the world was  thought one way we would never evolve from this new way of thinking that we apart of in these present times.

Yes we do still have  a lot to learn but at the same time there isn’t any ( I ) in team and no matter how much we try to toy around with it and think we can do this alone . WE just might find it difficult in the end , then we , inturn say how much we could be less boisterous and admit the stubborn truth that we in fact need each other to survive.

 

The Real

 

What makes us human? Is it the way we stroll to depict a specific picture to the world ? Alternatively is it how we collaborate with each other ?

Mankind to me is the manner by which we love. Indicating empathy to one’s unique interests. Giving them the solace they require through unpleasant and cheerful times. Being their companion, lover, father, mother, sister or brother. We frequently mistake these collaborations for adoration with “Hope”.

A friend once asked me ,”Why do women persuade men into believing there is a relationship taking shape however at the end there was nothing there in the first place ?” It’s clever on the grounds that I being a woman, for the most part, make the same inquiries to men, yet when I contemplated it we as a whole have emotions and that is a part of being human. Just to be reasonable, a man can get hurt as much as a woman can. For Jamaican men, I think they give an excessive amount to sentiments, that is the reason most times they don’t indicate it with the exception of when they locate the one. They frequently go frantic if that individual isn’t for them, left heart broken through dismissal it changes their minds to behaving like silly mongrels, projecting threatening vibes towards women and in some cases they may even become self-destructive. For hell’s sake, it’s most likely only a gene thing or more like a Munchanda suspicion, a logical clarification to the insanity I’ve seen.

To answer my friend’s inquiry, men and women who are pulled towards the wrong individual in these circumstances usually have a tendency to not comprehend that they are as much at a deficiency as the individual committing the criminal offence. In view of my own expertise, I was once infatuated with a man that wasn’t my own and in some weird way I really ‘hoped’ that I had a fix of winning him. I think he began feeling sorry for me since I insisted that I could deal with it, he to his credit was straight forward with me from the get-go that I wasn’t the one for him, however in that one snapshot of the shortcomings of hope I settled for being the second woman in his life, what us Jamaicans like to call (Matie). Where it counts, I generally realized that it wasn’t going to work, however, I carried on stubbornly and relentlessly seemingly oblivious to what was really gazing me right in the eyes (denial to hope)< POWERFUL AND EFFECTIVE.

There isn’t anything to feel humiliated about, sooner or later in life, we all have that one individual who we wildly and in the most discomforting way cherish.

Thus we push activities we would never do on an ordinary premise, to make that individual stay. I wouldn’t accuse love, the culprit is often loneliness and then hope. The vast majority don’t know how to live with, adore and acknowledge themselves in light of the fact that the general public has often thought of and treated them otherwise. To be one, we really need to get over it and figure out how to break free from the framework, then figure out how to act naturally and bit by bit sit tight for the perfect individual to simply be put into our lives. No man is an island, however in figuring out how to live on the island with oneself, having control and being at peace with your internal identity, you never know, a lost pontoon may appear some place with your loved one onboard. My musings may be insane, however do consider it.

My mother always said “Think with your heart, however, love with your mind”. Which means regardless of how you may think this is a tall tale, dependably put yourself first and inquire as to whether this is the thing that you truly merit or need. There are a lot of fishes out there to catch, don’t experience the hassle for the sake of somebody who isn’t demonstrating the same enthusiasm for you. On the off chance that a man needs you they will indicate it, regardless of what you’ve been through. In the event that he likes you, he will see past it, on the off chance that you are the one for him. Time sits tight for no man.

Reggae Falls

My home Jamaica. I would never put my country in any other category than the most exotic and beautiful island in the world . Don’t take my word for it? How about researching it for yourself . Trip advisers across the waters name our land of  wood and water the idyllic spot to visit in this year 2016 .

Despite our countless encounters of dulls minds trying to tarnish our good name in war and overwhelming  negligence , lacking reasoning and the ability to really sit down and think about the actions that we have brought upon ourselves.

Tourist still fought all of it , found peace and seek more than what meets the eyes every day . I took a trip a couple days ago ,exploring the natural beauty that gives fluorescence to the island. I wanted to feel the cool water on my skin and forbid the harsh heat as the last of summer plagued on the land , headed into fall  where everyone was trying to get settled in for the dawn of school.

The hilly ride to the valleys of St. Thomas caught me by surprise because this wasn’t a place I normally visit . When I was younger my friends use to tell the tale of people doing witchcraft , in our term “obeah” . Those tall tales made us kids didn’t once thought of going to that place especially stories about some kind of monkey waiting on the top of the hill camouflage in the trees targeting his preys. People believed if you have an eye for that parish , it  might be possible you going to visit the witch doctor (obeah man/woman) for a remedy to seduce your significant other or to whom you have interest in , to instantly fall inlove with you for the rest of your  life , without having an input on the matter . We call the remedy ( tie mi).

That immediately changed when I was captivated by the breathtaking views of the hills and how green and luscious the trees and grass looked . It was like I was finally back in my own part of the island where nothing else seem to be a bother except nature and I. You can just sit under a tree the entire day with a nice picnic with anything you need for your comfort and be reconciled from the rat race.

The journey to the falls wasn’t that bad , although I would recommend everyone to wear beach shoes because the stones weren’t friendly to the feet. My foot was killing me by the time I got there.  It was all worth it when I saw the powerful water slamming down on the rocks about 30 feet above us and it sprayed its cool water on our faces, the heat felt like a distant memory. I was happy! In a dramatic fulfilling way I just fell back in the water drenched my clothes and looked up to the clear blue sky and smiled .

 

The Clash Of the Genders

 

 

Most times I don’t recover the steady and forward thinking as to whom is good or bad. In the realm of the contrast between the sexes, I don’t comprehend why there must be a war between us. Ladies are currently battling to be heard, and that’s great in light of our history. Previously we were only stay at home spouses with no aspirations in life other than to fulfil to the role of a wife within the family unit. As J-Lo (sang in the now cutting edge days she claims to say , “I ain’t your mom”) implied, she doesn’t feel that a lady ought to be static in her dealings with men, regardless of the fact that they require a guardian to guide them. Generally however I trust a lady is entirely helpful to the terms of a peaceful whisperer, a firm hand behind the provider for the family .

In this modern day society men are presently wearing heels and subsequently forgetting their responsibilities, no firm hand in the family . Ladies are left to be the provider and the stay at home spouse. Pioneers of the past, they gave us the voice we need to connect with whatever remains of this male dominated world we call the “RAT RACE.”

This is the juncture where I sincerely think we made a mistake. Men have a particular chemical make up, high levels of testosterone that compel them to push to hard work, not all in really getting their hands filthy but some rather in the discovering of hens meat. So when we women remove that privilege from them, they tend to stagnate and become apathetic. They don’t feel as if they have a purpose in life any longer, so they lie back and let a lady do all the work. As much we ladies say that we would prefer not to be second or behind, we also prefer not to have a lazy man < we often flee > In our own slip-ups of being on top, because of the battling for our own rights when that occurs. Ladies, I should concede are one of the hardest animal varieties to manage, yet that is the reason God made man to handle us. All things considered, in the book of scriptures Adam was made first yet when he was so desolate he required a friend, God decided that he needed a solid lady to remain behind him to make him whole. In relation to the entire pack of discussions that happened afterwards, I need not go into further details as we all know the story. In Jamaican local dialect, we generally have this adage “every hoe have tick a bush.” Meaning that everybody has somebody who might be listening sitting tight for them regardless as to what extent discovery may take or the place on the planet they may be, there is dependably somebody out there that was made for you .

On that note, Gender distinction is insignificant. When you cherish somebody, that individual ought to have the appreciation, information and the patience to gain an understanding of how to treat you. Make up your own particular tenets and implement them however you see fit. It’s your life, live it how you need to. I happen to lean towards a legitimate 60/40, I will often give the man a chance to do a tiny bit more. I think they like being in control so I let them assume the role. We are the ladies of the night, a quiet mind behind their ordinary considering. Why try battling it ? You’re just going to get your own way in the end anyway. We are after all the most controlling creatures known to man, and I for one don’t have a problem with that.

Familia

Family definition from google ( a group consisting of two parents living under one roof with their children or descendants from generations in common with a person.)  In cultures our choice of words and how we apply them out to one’s self we usually halt at the family we are born with . In life it doesn’t matter where or whom they are , You can know someone for years be around them and know their every move, but yet they don’t put out as much effort in the relationship as its well deserved . A man you met just yesterday acts more humane and unpretentious , hence you’re left to feel more connected to their aspirations . In the end, you might even seek refuge in  them more than your own blood. Take for example for my Silverbirds family , I’ve known them since I was 15 years old . At that time I was going through a difficult time with my family , trying to really find where I belong . Ruptured in confusion about what Is and isn’t the truth about my life .

I found solace in music. I haven’t seen much in my younger years growing up because my parents weren’t the richest or  the poorest, but they’d rather not spend money when It’s not needed . Understandable enough because five children aren’t exactly the easiest thing to provide for,  living in a third world country . So I spent time fantasizing about the outside world and how it would feel like to travel and live like adventurers  on point like what was shown on the television .  That didn’t happen until I saw the first steel drum pans played at my high school .  I was filled with fascination of the art , I wanted to know more . Luckily my new family was willing to teach me . I was off to my new life , seeing the musical aspects of one’s soul. My mom didn’t seem to mind much because anything that can bring  an extra buck would have been much appreciated and she wanted me to know the work world from early.

They taught me how to grab the musics florescent feel , groove it from the heart . However, it wasn’t until I was sexually active I finally knew how it felt to actually play the music with love ,  be totally consecrated and let it play the rhythms of my heartbeat. I honestly believe that musicians play how they have sex base on how they illustrate their facial expressions and I pay keen attention to how they caress their instruments and listen to the melodic chords as they carefully choose them given the right key . Often on stage , I wonder what is going through their minds ? how do they know that these chords express how they feel?  Gives me chills every time I hear it . It might sound crazy, but it is, in fact, our inner 6th sense reaching out to every human being on that hour of fame , manifesting on oscillation exhilarate we then use to push that energy so the audience can have semblance with us. Among other things, they taught me about life and how to live and carry myself as a lady. A band of class i must admit ,on the road with them was the best years of my life through fights and all .

A Family , in MUNCHANDAS definition, doesn’t necessarily have to be immediate , it can also be a part of one’s unique interest. It’s the decision you make with whom you choose to be a part of your life , that person/s that produces  a significant difference in your life . A lover , a friend and a companion. My Silverbirds family is in the category of close family .  My sisters and brothers , my mother , my father , that is how I will forever see them for the rest of my life.

The Right to Ask

I ask my readers to be placid  about this tricky but effective topic “God”. I believe Religion is a firm cult design to keep us under one strict rule , Govern by the most contradicting …

Source: Munchanda  The Right to Ask

An unfinished story

Goodbye a dear friend . Goodbye to you a jovial spirit  , an inviting tough soul and a willing heart . You  are always Full of life and vibration . No one could ever survive what you’ve been through and still have a smile on their face every single day. You will , and forever be a fighter . In my eyes and the eyes yet to come.

We may meet again in the garden of unity and love . We shall join hands and say yes ! we have lived .

Until then good bye for now , for this isn’t farewell. This is just a good bye , a later alligator, a in a while crocodile .  Your  time as now come . You can finally sleep , rest in peace ,  You will forever be loved by many  , for you have done well . R.I.P  D 🔑

The Right to Ask

I ask my readers to be placid  about this tricky but effective topic “God”.
I believe Religion is a firm cult design to keep us under one strict rule , Govern by the most contradicting books in the world ,  “The  Bible,  Struti , Torah , Qur’an , Talmud….   Etc”  anything giving teachings of the supreme being  . It is carried out by an elite group of activist , we are left to be subsequent to the lectured exhortation that we ignorantly let be a part of us.

I haven’t relinquished the faith so there no issue listening the word of the lord because after all, I grew up in the church . My mom made sure that her children went to church every day that God sent . I did like my pastor a wonderful lady she is , thought me many things that were good , She was like a second mom . I’ve always had it in my thoughts what else is out there . As soon dilemma absconds through my mind ,   I began  to ask  questions ,  I usually get “certain questions don’t have answers” or “you will go to hell if you ask certain things.”  It is understandable that not everything has an answer and us then just go off a spiritual connection . I call it the (sixth sense) , (that which connects all inner beings . ) Without reason, we all feel it and that is something that we can’t articulate.

Why should we not want to know more ? Why do we feel like we are being rebuked and sent to express taxi to the depths of hell if we question religion ? How is it fair to tell me which denomination to go to ? Why do we fight against the same words we preach ?

For God so loved the “world” (us) he sacrificed his son for our sins .
I think the minds of each soul use the intellect of the bible , twist and sculpt it into their  own controversial book , resulting in disgusting inhuman like behaviors. Which makes the sense of Jesus dying irrelevant because we can’t grow pass the hatred for each other .
Entities from the ancient days expect the new generation of the evolving world to follow , but they have already tarnished the good name and it lead to a nonsensical devised war among the human race,  that still continue to pollute this nation.
I’m Basically thinking out loud but I have to stop and ask myself, is this something I should or want to be a part of ?

If the great ALMIGHTY does exist , I believe he is convivial .  He doesn’t use fear to control his people , he graced us with the knowledge to choose , gave us the wisdom to know right from wrong . Yes ! that’s what I live by, After all, he did create me in his own image .

Why did he design me like this? He must have known the sequence of my writing , hence I thinking and speculating life as I see fit in my own unique world of “MUNCHANDA”.   I believe he is open and willing to let us promenade the path on exploring his beautifully heavenly sent lands in our own way.
I could be wrong but remember I could be right .

PERSISTENCE

 

With each happy moment that is spent , appreciation of life just gets better . A smile a day keeps the devil away my mother always preach .

Why fill the heart with contempt when there is so much to live  for . Driven by perseverance , achievements can be accomplished through persistence .

Even though there will be roads with many lanes and turn offs .Remember it’s not the end of the world . Smile you are alive and well ,  as long as you have breath , you can stand and fight the day to day struggles . Life isn’t meant to be easy , we are made to challenge the world and do with it as it seems fit . At the end of the day, hard work always shows.